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Motherhood has easily been the best part of life that I’ve ever experienced, but it doesn’t come easy. It’s very easy to lose yourself in the demanding world of #momlife full of midnight wake up calls, neverending basket of laundry, diaper changes and everything in between. Your life suddenly revolves 100% around this new little baby overnight, and it’s definitely a transition to adjust to. Although at first you do have to set yourself aside and fully commit to getting this mom thing down, it gets easier and it’s important to not lose your entire identity in it. This is especially hard for stay at home or work from home moms. I wanted to share a few ways (not in any particular order) that I’ve been able to keep my sense of “self” while fully embracing being a mom!
This one sounds so simple, but it makes a world of difference. At first, I went longer than usual without even giving a second thought to washing my hair. My wardrobe was made up of nursing tanks and bras, yoga pants, pajamas and any comfortable thing I could find. This is perfectly fine at first because let’s be real, labor takes a toll on your body and you have to give yourself some time. Remember to not yourself go after too long though. It’s easy to because time is limited and a shower seems close to impossible.Take the time to get dressed, do your make up – whatever makes you feel good. When you feel put together, you feel better about yourself. Go shopping for new clothes to give you that motivation to get dressed. I was excited to shop for clothes again that actually fit. Whatever it takes! PinkBlush is a go to for new moms and moms to be. Every item has a maternity version of it, so it’s easy to find items that fit you in every season of life. PinkBlush has every mom in mind! They even have a new line for babies, so it’s a one stop shop for you and baby. Mila’s shorts in the outfit above are SO cute. I would go up a size though. My top is also from PinkBlush and it’s the perfect top to wear for summer or fall. It’s true to size and has the cutest details. Check out lots of other cute tops here!
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
I’ve talked about this in one of my recent blog posts. I finally decided to work on being healthy and physically fit. Every morning, I go to the gym for an hour and that one hour has made such a difference in my every day life. It’s a better start to my day and it helps me to get up and get going. It makes me a happier person and gives me a goal to work towards while becoming a healthier version of me for my baby and family. Get your nails done, quiet time with your bible, watch your favorite show by yourself – whatever it may be, make time for it!
FIND A HOBBY/WORK FROM HOME
This one has been the biggest thing for me. Prior to having Mila, I was ALWAYS on the go. I was always busy with sugar cookies, designing invites and working on my blog. As soon as I became a mom, that was all put on hold (and longer than should’ve in my case because of the Bell’s Palsy situation). I finally started to slowly start working again and it made such a difference in my every day life. It’s easy to get caught up in all the to-do’s around the house and in the endless cycles of feeding, diaper changes, playing and naptime with your baby. I suddenly felt like that was my only purpose. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing only those things, I like to have my own things going too. It was a struggle at first because you feel like there are not enough hours in the day to do the basic necessities, and now adding in more! You have to take advantage of naptimes, bedtimes and any free time in between. It’s also important to have a support system that can help when its needed. I am very flexible with my schedule and try to only book cookies for the weekends, so that I bundle up all of my orders for 2-3 nights a week. I design invites or work on my blog after Kalep and Mila go to bed or early in the mornings when she naps, and just whatever time I can find. It is difficult to switch between work mode and mom mode when you work from home, so it’s important to find that balance. If there’s any hobby you’ve been curious in trying or a business you’ve been itching to start, go for it! It’s hard but it’s worth it!
FIND YOUR COMMUNITY/MOM FRIENDS
Spend time with your friends or people that you enjoy being around. It can get lonely if you stay at home or work from home. It’s just you and your baby for most of the day and as cute as they are, they can’t hold much of a conversation. I’m lucky in the fact that most of my best friends are all moms (and new moms like me), so we can all relate to this season of life and it’s easier to get together. We understand each others schedules and we also try to plan nights/days out together. Most of my friends also work from home or own their own business, so that’s nice too.
DON’T NEGLECT YOUR HUSBAND/SIGNIFICANT OTHER
This one’s an easy one to do too. You get so caught up in making sure that all of baby’s needs are met that you forget about your significant other. Kalep was so good at tending to me and helping me at the beginning and I know he was understanding, but I think I got so caught up in being a new mom and dealing with bell’s palsy that I did tend to forget about him and his needs. Make dates or just time with each other as a priority in your schedule.
ACCEPT HELP/TAKE A BREAK
Grandparents are ALL about their new grandbaby, so our families were and still are such a blessing to us. They help us out in so many ways and I couldn’t be more grateful. Take them up when they offer to watch your baby. My mom comes over every morning while I work out and will help me deep clean my house and everything else in between on the regular. I don’t know how I could do this mom thing without her (& everyone else’s) help along the way! Don’t feel guilty about accepting the help or just simply asking for a few hours off to run errands or do what you need to do!
Most importantly, be patient with yourself. This is a huge change as a first time mom and we can’t all get it down perfectly. It takes time to adjust and that’s ok. Mom guilt is a real thing, but try your best to be positive and remember that taking care of yourself helps you to be a better and happier person for your baby and your family!
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