Hey friends! I have hit 12 weeks today and I can hardly believe how fast that flew by. I wanted to do a recap and share a few tips that have really helped me stick to it and not give up like I have so many times in the past.
I have actually done so much better in reaching fitness goals now that I’m a mom and have so much more on my plate which is crazy, and also starting off at the heaviest I’ve ever been. For months after I had Mila, my self-esteem probably couldn’t get any lower. I held on to that baby weight for longer than I wanted, and wasn’t doing much to get it off. I still have bell’s palsy but it was a lot more severe then, so I was nervous to even go out in public or speak to people. Basically, I just had a hard time looking in the mirror which sounds so shallow, but it’s the truth. It just served as a constant reminder of what was wrong with me and all the things I needed to improve. I was to the point where I was even embarrassed wearing shorts around Kalep (lol)! My legs are my problem areas, so they were in terrible shape! While I couldn’t do much about Bell’s Palsy, I could control what my body and health looked like. I also got tired of making excuses and that little voice saying, “I’ll start next Monday” or “I’ll start tomorrow.” I reached out to one of my college friends, Melaine, for help to get me started. She is a fitness queen and her body is #GOALS, so I knew she’d be the right person to get me on track. I always got overwhelmed at the gym doing weights on my own or knowing exactly what to eat because I felt like I had no idea what I was doing, so I would never start. I have been doing her monthly meal and workout plans and that has made all of the difference. I also check in with her once a week which keeps me accountable. I’m incredibly thankful for her friendship and for that extra push I needed from her.
I’ve been giving updates on my fitness journey every couple of weeks on Instagram, but I thought I’d do a recap of the experience so far as a whole on here. It just feels GOOD! It feels good to be working towards something, to actively be doing the things I say I’m going to do like go to the gym every day, and I just feel good about myself. The bell’s palsy has actually improved quite a bit, and I think this contributed to it. Going to the gym helps me to relieve stress or have a bit of me time every morning.. I often forget I have bell’s palsy (until I look in a mirror), but I no longer feel terrible about myself even with my face a little crooked. It hasn’t been completely easy and I have had weeks where I’ve struggled and weeks where my cravings were crazy and I had a harder time or life got in the way, but it’s important to keep going and not give up.
• I’m down 10 lbs since I started in June and under 130 which hasn’t happened in SO long. It doesn’t seem like a lot but I’ve been very close to this weight before, but still didn’t look any more toned or any stronger. My body looks a lot different now than it has when I’ve lost weight before.
• I’m down 2-3 sizes! I went from a 29 to a 26 and a 6 to a 4 and I’ve never been able to fit into anything remotely close. It’s a good feeling when even your yoga pants are falling off. I’m working on building my booty and still having toned legs, but they’re a lot leaner than they’ve ever been and I love it! It feels good to fit into my clothes, and not be squeezing into my jeans. I’m actually about to clean out my closet again because I only have about 2-3 pairs of jeans that fit me because the rest are too big – which is a good problem to have!
• It’s hard to tell in the picture above because it’s a little dark, but my stomach is starting to have some definition. My back is a lot more defined and I’m just stronger overall. I was ridiculously weak when I first started especially my arms. It feels good every week when I can increase weight or I can do one more ab crunch or tricep dip than I could the week before.
• Most importantly, my self-esteem has increased and I feel healthier. It’s not all about the outside, but it’s ok to feel good about yourself and be proud of your accomplishments. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m proud of the goals I’ve crushed so far!
• START! Don’t wait until the day you feel ready, until Monday, until next week, etc. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you do something for yourself and just start working towards a goal.
• Get into a routine! I struggled in the past because I would go at night, in the morning, just whenever I could find the time. Sometimes, there’s no way around that, but for me, I had to make a change because it was easier for me to skip when my workouts were all over the place. I go every morning (even on Saturdays). If for some reason I can’t in the morning, I go at lunch or in the evening but I try not to let that happen too often. It becomes a habit and makes it harder to skip out on. I get my pre-workout and clothing ready the night before, so when I wake up it’s all ready for me. Shoutout to my mom for coming over every morning to watch Mila while I go!
• Every morning on the way to the gym, I say my morning prayer and I always ask God for the motivation to keep going, to get me through the next workout, thank him for my health, etc. I give ALL the glory to Him!
• If you mess up, don’t quit! That’s when I always strayed off track. I’d mess up once, then another, then one more time and before I knew it, I gained all the weight back I lost. I try VERY hard to eat exactly what’s on my meal plan, but life happens especially as a mom. Sometimes, I don’t eat all the meals that I have to in a day. It’s crazy how much you have to actually eat to lose weight and gain muscle. It was hard for me at first to eat everything, but now that my metabolism has increased, I can’t get enough (lol)! Other times, I just have to eat something to get food in my belly if I didn’t have a chance to meal prep, but I still try to keep it as healthy as I can. I allow myself one cheat meal a week. I have to make this as realistic as I can for my lifestyle because if I go crazy strict, I’m a lot more liable to quit. The cheat meal isn’t always a pepperoni pizza or enchiladas (as much as I’d like it to be). I do something like a cauliflower pizza or buffalo chicken sweet potatoes as my cheat meals sometimes. If we go out of town for the weekend and I’m not able to realistically take my meal preps, I give myself grace. I do the best I can and eat healthy options at restaurants and get right back to it when I get home. I make it a point to set aside either sunday night or monday night to meal prep. Time is limited especially if you’re a mom, so it’s easier for me to have everything ready to pull out of the fridge.
• I started to listen to motivational podcasts like The Goal Digger Podcast while I do cardio on the treadmill or at the track. It gives me a good start to my day, and keeps me motivated and inspired to reach my goals whether it be fitness wise, with my blog, cookies and invites, or even as a wife and mom.
• Reward yourself! I tell myself (or Kalep), “If I reach 6 weeks or this or that, I’m buying myself a new pair of running shoes” or a new workout outfit.
• Set goals. It’s a lot easier to stay on track when you have clear goals to work towards. Also, take pictures of yourself. It helps so much when you see your work paying off and you see changes. I’ve also found it to be easier to stick to it by posting on my social media. It gives me a sense of accountability! I know all of you aren’t dying to see if I give up or not, if I’ve lost weight or not, but it still helps me to not want to “disappoint” and be all talk.
• If you don’t know where to start, get with Melaine! She’s the best!
Now for the good stuff! My trainer Melaine is the sweetest and put together a special deal for all of my followers. She offers so many different services and packages and she’s affordable compared to so many other trainers I’ve seen. She’s a personal trainer in Dallas, but offers services remotely. She emails me my weekly meal and workout plans, and is ALWAYS available when I text her even if it’s for a healthy suggestion at McAlister’s or to whine that my ab workouts are too hard (lol).
This is the perfect opportunity to get started on your own fitness journey!
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I know I am no fitness guru or fitness model, but I am a mama on my journey to reach goals and become the best version of myself. I hope I can serve as some inspiration to crush your own goals!